Flipping the Script: How Gratitude Can Transform Your Perspective (Especially This Week!)

As we head into Thanksgiving, many of us feel the pressure rising—cleaning the house, prepping meals, juggling schedules, welcoming guests, or navigating family dynamics. Even when we deeply appreciate the holiday, some of the “to-dos” can start to feel heavy.
But one of the most powerful parts of practicing gratitude is learning how to flip the script—shifting how we view everyday tasks so they become opportunities instead of burdens.

You’ve probably heard the saying: “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
There’s truth to that. Research in cognitive psychology shows that the language we use—both out loud and silently—actually influences how our brain interprets our experiences. Gratitude practices activate areas of the brain related to joy, bonding, resilience, and emotional regulation. In fact, gratitude has been shown to reduce stress hormones and increase serotonin and dopamine, helping us better navigate challenges, transitions, and yes… even perimenopause.

So today, let’s talk about how to shift your perspective as you move through the next couple of days—and beyond.

Everyday Chores Through a Gratitude Lens

Here are a few ways you might “flip the script” this week:

Instead of: “Ugh, I have so much cleaning to do…”

Try: “I’m grateful to have a home where people gather, laugh, and create memories.”

Instead of: “I’m exhausted from all this cooking.”

Try: “I get to prepare food that nourishes my family and brings us together.”

Instead of: “My house is too loud and chaotic.”

Try: “This noise means I’m surrounded by people I love.”

Instead of: “Traffic and crowds are so annoying.”

Try: “I’m grateful to be healthy, mobile, and able to participate in the holiday.”

Instead of: “My family drives me crazy.”

Try: “I’m thankful for the relationships and connections that shape my life.”

None of this is about pretending everything is perfect—it’s about intentionally choosing the perspective that supports your emotional well-being.

How to Retrain Your Brain to Look for Gratitude

Flipping the script is a skill, and like any skill, it can be learned and strengthened. Here are a few steps you can start using today:

1. Pause Before Reacting

Instead of going straight into frustration, take a breath and ask:
“What’s another way to see this?”

This tiny pause interrupts your automatic thought patterns and gives your brain space to shift.

2. Look for the Hidden Gift

Even when something feels inconvenient, there is often a deeper blessing underneath it.
A sink full of dishes? A sign of people fed and a gathering enjoyed.
A long grocery store line? A reminder that you’re not alone in preparing for something meaningful.

3. Change the Words You Use

Language shapes emotion.
“I have to…” becomes “I get to…”
“I’m overwhelmed…” becomes “I’m capable and supported.”
It may feel cheesy at first, but this literally rewires neural pathways over time.

4. Practice Micro-Reflections

Throughout your day, practice noticing one small moment of gratitude at a time.
A warm cup of coffee…
The smell of food cooking…
A quiet corner of the house…
This trains your brain to scan for the good more naturally.

5. Celebrate Your Progress

Every time you catch yourself flipping a thought—even once—you’re strengthening your gratitude muscles.
Give yourself credit. This work matters.

A Powerful Practice Heading Into Thanksgiving

As you move through the holiday preparations, you have a beautiful opportunity to practice gratitude in real time.
Let the next 48 hours be your experiment.
Choose one task each day that normally feels like a chore and intentionally flip your script.

At the end of the day, ask yourself:
👉 How did that shift change the way I felt?
👉 How did it impact my mood, my stress, or my interactions with others?

Gratitude isn’t just something we write in a journal—it’s something we live. And when we practice shifting our perspective, our emotional resilience grows right alongside it.

Happy Thanksgiving week, friend.
I’m grateful for you, for this community, and for the chance to learn and grow together.

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